I wouldn't say my life is particularly special or unique, but I think there is something very exciting about life in your twenties. They say that your thirties are the best years of your life, wisdom comes in your forties and your later years are when you begin to appreciate life for what it is. But what about your twenties? Some will say it's the messiest stage of life. Gone are the comforts and structure of childhood, yet no one quite knows what they're doing yet even though we all pretend to. Hence, the inevitable crisis we all have at some point in our mid twenties. However I believe there's romance in the unknown.
Your career, friendships, relationships, moving to a new city, and family are always moving in a million different directions in your twenties. Add to that the whirlwind of technology and the ever changing world we live in. Politics, war, misogyny, racism, homophobia are always around, always in your face. What does it mean to grow up in a world where information is always available? What does it mean to grow up in a world where there is little privacy? Where every move you make can be documented, and often we feel compelled to share it ourself. Almost every person I know has divorced parents, myself included. Our generation grew up within the highest divorce rates in history. Has this affected us? What does it mean to navigate hook up culture? What does it mean to have access to hundreds, if not thousands of dates within minutes? Or finding lifelong friends within a sea of social media posts? Everyone wants to be friends with the exciting girl on social media, but how does it feel to know you might fall short of that in real life? What's a corporate career mean when you can do well as an influencer or start an OnlyFans?
All of what is mentioned plays a part in every twenty-something's life. Some would even say dealing with all of this is ~average~, it's normal. And the best part is that we get to navigate it somewhat blindly. Our parents may understand to an extent, sure, but we're the pioneers of an adult world within the realm of technology. Even our older millennial counterparts lived in a world where their every move wasn't documented, until they chose to share later on. Those of us a few years younger never got that option. It's no wonder we all feel lost to some extent.
So anyway, hi I'm Madelynn. I'm a twenty-five year old girl living in New York City. I recently made the jump from the west coast to the east coast after my graduate program shifted to Zoom and I was laid off from my corporate job during the pandemic. I've had my nudes leaked, been fired, almost kicked out of graduate school and once I sold my plasma to have money to buy a vodka redbull at the club that night. I'm normal.
If I had to describe my life up to this point, I would say that I've been unapologetic. I've heard a lot of "no" or "now isn't a good time" and thousands of reasons why I shouldn't do something or go somewhere. But I've always just taken the leap of faith anyway. I love meeting new people and exploring new places. I can confidently say I have a life of almost no regrets, mostly because I've been unapologetically selfish. And if it doesn't work out, then I'll either figure out how to make it work or go back a step. It's NBD!
Love those who offer advice, respect those who worry for you, but unapologetically move forward the way you want to. After all, there's romance in the unknown.
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